How to Prevent a Marriage from Divorce

This is the old method of back-calculation or creating a recipe from eating a cake. If we know what creates divorce, we will know how to stop it.

The Grounds of Divorce

What are the grounds on which a spouse may file a divorce petition? Under the current legal system of the UK, the applicant needs to prove one of the following against the respondent.

• Adultery: A spouse who is involved in a relation out of wedlock may be divorced by the other spouse if the affair can be proved. This remains one of the strongest grounds of divorce in the UK, and has been so for ages now.


• Irrational Behaviour: Everybody from a wife-beater to the woman who can be heard snoring over the loudest music comes under this law. The abnormality of the behaviour must impress the court as adequate for granting a divorce, so it needs to be of adequate seriousness.


• Abandonment: If a partner has not been in touch at all for more than five years, it may be considered an abandoned marriage and divorce may be obtained.


• Five years’ Separation without Consent and Three years’ Separation with Consent: These two are fast becoming the most popular forms of divorce in the UK. Also known as the no-faults or amicable divorce, the idea is to allow couples who do not want to live together file for divorce in peace.

• If you are having an affair, you need to ask yourself several questions – the first being – are you serious about it? If it is just a fling, you need to be prepared to defend yourself in case you are caught, or better still, you can let your spouse know. Ensure that you sound sincere enough to be believed. It is a tough choice if you are actually in love, but you need to take the call and decide on your next course of action.


• If your spouse is having an affair, do not hesitate to let him or her know that you have understood what is going on, but try to do it minus the hysterics and tantrums. It may be very difficult, but divorce is an even more difficult decision. Do not jump precipitously to conclusions unless you have had a full talk.


• If your spouse is not habitually violent, but has suddenly turned abusive and impatient, you need to know what is wrong instead of throwing a stone. It may be something out of your marriage that is creating a lot of pressure for him or her. We are all human beings, and none of us is growing younger. Phases of frustration and depression are quite normal, especially if you are a busy professional in a city.


• If your spouse has stopped communicating with you, then you can be the first to take the initiative. Do not force him or her to talk; being judgmental would not help either. Try to be understanding, gentle but encouraging, so that your partner feels confident and secure enough to connect to you again.


• Staying in the same environment can be a terrible drag. Go for a vacation - a lot of couples have tried this simple remedy and come home smiling again.


• You need not give up if you are not in a position to plan an elaborate holiday. One weekend together minus the kids, work and pets, a few walks in the quiet of the morning, a sudden dinner, a movie ‘date’ -- there are so many little ways of reworking the magic again.


• Lack of children may grate on your spouse. Talk over it and start a family if both of you want it. And finally, do not underestimate the healing power of sex.

James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you want to find out more about a solicitor managed divorce see www.managed-divorce.co.uk

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